Aunty Julie,
I work for a big company and have been having an affair with my boss’s wife for the past year. They separated about 18 months ago. She is lovely and the s3x is fantastic, but she is putting pressure on me to leave my wife of ten years. I love my wife, but I also love s3x and she is only interested about once a month.
I suppose you will say I am having my cake and eating it. If I were to end the affair, I know I would get s3xually frustrated. On the other hand, I don’t know how my boss would react if he found out. My wife would also be devastated if I left her. I don’t know what to do.
E.O Ajayi, Ajaokuta
Dear Ajayi,
You are playing with fire. You are enjoying the affair, but nowhere in your letter did you say you love this woman and want to be with her. If you were to end it and stay with your wife, I am afraid you would eventually embark on other affairs. If you did get together with your mistress, your boss may react badly and put your job at risk. Your mistress may get bored of waiting and tell your wife, causing you to lose both your marriage and your job.
If you want to stay with your wife, you need to end the affair and see if it’s possible to sort out the mismatch of s3xual desire within your marriage. You may not make love quite as much a you want, but, hopefully, more than once a month. If nothing changes, then perhaps you need to consider whether the marriage has a future.
I work for a big company and have been having an affair with my boss’s wife for the past year. They separated about 18 months ago. She is lovely and the s3x is fantastic, but she is putting pressure on me to leave my wife of ten years. I love my wife, but I also love s3x and she is only interested about once a month.
I suppose you will say I am having my cake and eating it. If I were to end the affair, I know I would get s3xually frustrated. On the other hand, I don’t know how my boss would react if he found out. My wife would also be devastated if I left her. I don’t know what to do.
E.O Ajayi, Ajaokuta
Dear Ajayi,
You are playing with fire. You are enjoying the affair, but nowhere in your letter did you say you love this woman and want to be with her. If you were to end it and stay with your wife, I am afraid you would eventually embark on other affairs. If you did get together with your mistress, your boss may react badly and put your job at risk. Your mistress may get bored of waiting and tell your wife, causing you to lose both your marriage and your job.
If you want to stay with your wife, you need to end the affair and see if it’s possible to sort out the mismatch of s3xual desire within your marriage. You may not make love quite as much a you want, but, hopefully, more than once a month. If nothing changes, then perhaps you need to consider whether the marriage has a future.
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