*ORDERED CHAOS* *EPISODE 2*

Faculty of Social Sciences
*2:00pm*
*Dele* : Nigga, what's up nah?
*Kizito* : My man, I dey....(Shakes hands with dele)
*Dele* : You hear say results don show?
*Kizito* : which one?
*Dele* : That GS wey be like English language nah....erm...wetin be the course code again sef.... 🤔
*Kizito* : you don check your own?
*Dele* : I just dey come from Notice board now....I get C...
*Kizito* : you know say you be fool?
*Dele* : wetin I do you now Kizi?.....I do bad thing tell you say results don show?
*Kizito* : just answer me... Shey you know?
*Dele* : know wetin?
*Kizito* : Say you be fool?
*Dele* Oya how?
*Kizito* :Good... Oya now listen....you go notice board, you check your Reg No, you no check the course code... As you check your Reg No finish, you no even say make you check for your guy....e make sense?
*Dele* : I know say nah wetin dey pain you be that...mtchew....lazy Buffalo.... No go check your results by yourself.... (Walks away.....)
As kizito Walks towards the notice board to check his results, his thoughts are disturbed by a sharp but sweet feminine Voice...
*Sophia* : Kizito..... Hi..
*Kizito* : (Omo see change of voice to auto tunes nah
..lol).....Hey dearie... How are you doing?
*Sophia* : I'm good except for that extremely boring Sociology class we have by 3pm....that's what I'm waiting for....
*Kizito* : oh, its true sef....mtchew... I wish that man will sleep and never wake up...
*Sophia* : you're too kind....I wish He will just have amnesia and forget everything he's supposed to teach us and then get sacked by the school authority before dying in an auto crash....
*Kizito* : CHISOS!!! .... (This babe must be from marine kingdom, he thought)....
*Sophia* : C'mon, I'm just joking.... (Laughing)... I saw that in a movie
*Kizito* : (thinking to himself; you mean you saw when your mother, the Queen of the coast did it to somebody)....
*Sophia* : Anyways, congratulations..... I check your GSP 102 results for you....you got 78...
*Kizito* : You checked my results?
*Sophia* : yeah....and I said you just got A....congratulations...
*Kizito* (recovering from the shock of a girl having his reg number....)...... Yeah... Oh...thank you....but....how did you get my Reg Number?
*Sophia* : The day you asked me to sign attendance for you in class....it was then I got it...
*Kizito* :...(Jesu!..... Some people can stalk oh.... And this girl is beautiful and Intelligent, I don't know why I just don't like her)...
*Sophia* : I'm hungry Kizi....I wanna go to Frenzy....you care to tag along?
*Kizito* : (hmmm.... Daughters of evil....you want me to come and pay for your food this afternoon... Kolework)......
No oh....don't bother....I'm not hungry....
*Sophia* : No don't worry, the bills are on me.....(Rich kid nah)....I wanna take you out?
*Kizito* : Ehn!.....you say what?.....(thank you Jesus, you're the lover of my soul).....Oh, it's true.... I just remembered now that the next class....that Sociology is usually 2 hours....I need to fill myself till then....I will follow you...
*Sophia* : Are you seriously gonna go out with me?
*Kizito* : Shebi, it's to go and eat...I'll go nah...
*Sophia* : you're a darling Kizi....(holds him by the hand as they both go to SUB)...
*Kizito* : My dear.....you're the real darling!
Faculty of Agriculture....
*2:45 PM*
*CJ* : guy, why you dey do yourself this kind thing?
*Louis* bro, calm down now....she said she's coming...
*CJ* See, you gats carry me go Franco ref for all these stand wey I just dey stand since oh....Engine boy like you come here dey find Agric babe?....you're a prodigal son!....
*Louis* : Guy, nah all those wrestlers wey dey Engine nah Im you want make I follow?
*CJ* : Must you follow?.... You still dey first year Nigga....Calm down...your course nah five years...
*Louis* : ( signalling CJ, Shut up she don dey come)
*CJ* : Na she be that?....she no even fine sef....mtchew....
(Girl arrives scene)
*Louis* : Hi, you're Onyinye right?
*Onyinye* : yeah...is me..
*Louis* : I'm Louis, the guy from the UNN aspirants group chat....
*Onyinye* : Ok....
*Louis* : this is my friend CJ, he's my roommate too....he's in Civil Engineering....
*CJ* : (Comes closer to hug)
*Onyinye* : Sorry oh...I don't hug....if you want to greet, you shake me...
*CJ* : ( swallows hard....Shakes her hand)
*Louis* : So Onyinye, which course did you get?
*Onyinye* : they gave me Animal science....
*CJ* : ( Scoffs)
*Louis* wow!....that's a nice course....
*Onyinye* : (angry).... Are you mocking me?...
*Louis* : No oh.... I mean it...it's a nice course....my aunt studied it...
*Onyinye* : how much does your Aunty have now...
*Louis* : An an...how will I know?
*Onyinye* : but is she Rich?
*Louis* : I don't if would say so but I know she's comfortable....
*Onyinye* : Ok...
*Louis* : uhm.. Onyin...can we go for a walk ..?
*Onyinye* : my name is not onyi....it is Onyinye.... Don't short it for me...
*Louis* : ha!....Ok....
*Onyinye* : Which work are you talking about?..... Is there work in school for students?
*Louis* : I said walk.....walk...like let us take a stroll....
*Onyinye* : Why?
*Louis* : uhm....you know.... Just to get to know each other better....
*Onyinye* : Just be wakaring and be talking.... No oh....I did not have strength for that kind waka....I want to go to church now....
*Louis* : Ehen, can we at least just walk down to Chitis to get a cup of ice cream.....
*Onyinye* : No don't worry.... Just give me the money for my own ice cream... I'll use it and buy groundnut in front of my hostel....use your own and buy ice cream....
*Louis* : uhm....I don't have change.... The money is #1,000 bill....
*Onyinye* : don't worry, the women in front of my hostel there will have change.... They have Been there since morning....
*CJ* : Babe, I think I and my friend should go....we too we're going to church....
*Onyinye* : Ehen?.....which church?
*CJ* : Franco Ministries international....!!
...........SEASON 3 rolling in soon....
*........ # ANTICIPATE*

7 Ways To Have An Open Relationship Without Killing Your Marriage

It can work if you set some ground rules.
Are you curious about an open
relationship , but not sure where to start? Maybe you've talked about it with your partner but don't know how to move forward.
Below are seven steps to help you begin opening up. Remember: all relationships are unique — one size does not fit all. Use these tips as a guide, but do what feels right for you.
1. Put it all out on the table.
If you’ve been curious about making your relationship open , the first and most important thing to do is talk it over with your partner. Sit down at an appropriate time when both of you are calm and have plenty of time to chat. Be sensitive bringing it up, but be clear and honest with your emotions. Explain why this is something you’d like to try. If they agree, you can take the next step. If not, talk about other ways to evolve your
monogamous relationship .
2. Set some ground rules.
The rules couples put in place for their
open relationships vary greatly, but are all of equal importance. Once your sure that you both want to go forward, sit down and make a list of boundaries that both of you are comfortable with . Write them down and talk out all of the details before going forward. While it’s important to be compromising in a relationship, this isn’t the place to bend-over backward. Make your opinions known and don’t hold back.
Here are some common rules people in open relationships use. But don’t follow these — do what's right for you. Each relationship is unique and it’s important to find what works for YOU.
Always practice safe sex outside the relationship.
No sex with mutual friends.
Sexual encounters must not interfere with the couple’s customary or planned time together.
Sex is permissible only when one partner is out of town.
Outside sex is only allowed with advance agreement with one’s lover.
Outside sex is allowed only when both partners participate.
Outside sex is never permitted at home.
Sex is permitted at home, but not in the bedroom.
3. Don’t be afraid to speak up.
If you make rules that don’t work and you feel unhappy, be sure to leave room for adjustment. No one said the rules had to be set in stone and it may take time to feel out what works best for your relationship. Be patient with each other and the fog will start to clear.
4. Decide what you're comfortable hearing about.
If you feel the need to spill every detail of your escapades but your partner would rather you keep that to yourself (or vice-versa), you need to discuss those boundaries that make you both comfortable. Ask for the details you want but before you even ask make sure you really want to know. Maybe you want to know who and when, but is it really necessary to know every detail? If you can handle it and it feels important to you then by all means, ask!
5. Take it one step at a time.
Start out slow. Consider first bringing someone else into your bedroom before you both go out on your own. Either way, be sure to have a frank discussion about each experience before proceeding full-steam ahead. If it felt right and you’re ready to move forward, you can now do so with more confidence. But if something went awry, identify the root of the problem and work it out before moving on.
6. Don’t cheat.
Unless your rules explicitly state that your partner wants to know nothing about who you sleep with, remember that cheating is still cheating , even in an open relationship. Holding back the details, even if it’s because you broke a rule and are worried you will hurt your partner, could cause greater problems going forward. Your open relationship only works because you have trust, and once that’s gone you have nothing.
7. Don’t force the issue.
If it isn’t working for one of you, it isn’t working for both. Whether this means adjusting your rules or stopping outside relations altogether, make the change that is going to make you comfortable.
Open relationships do not work if only one person is happy. You may come to a point where you no longer need the open relationship or you may come to a point where you no longer want to stay in a committed relationship. Whatever your feelings, be open with them.
Open relationships are about working together to make your partnership exactly what you want it to be. If you're honest, communicate frequently and openly and use the tips above you'll go far.

If You Do These 10 Things You're Headed Toward Lasting Love (Yay!)

THIS is a one size fits all guide to building the right kind of relationship.
How many of us have learned how to build loving relationships ? Where did we learn? At home? At school? There is an art and science to building strong relationships. These are indispensable tips, written with romantic relationships in mind, but with a little modification you can apply them to your friendships,
family, and even work relationships .
1. Create a safe environment where you can trust and share openly without fear.
Don't interrupt, even if you need to put your hand over your mouth to stop yourself. Learn to fight fairly. No name calling. Don't make threats. Apologize when you know you should. If you're too angry to really listen, stop! Go into another room, take space for yourself, breathe, and calm down.
Remember: your partner is not the enemy.
2. Separate the facts from the feelings.
What beliefs and feelings get triggered in you during conflicts? Ask yourself: Is there something from my past that is influencing how I'm seeing the situation now? The critical question you want to ask: Is this about him or her, or is it really about me? What's the real truth?
Once you're able to differentiate facts from feelings, you'll see your partner more clearly and be able to resolve conflicts from clarity.
3. Connect with the different parts of yourself.
Each of us is not a solo instrument. We're more like a choir or an orchestra with several voices. What is your mind saying? What is your heart saying? What is your body saying? What is your "gut" saying?
For example: My mind is saying "definitely leave her," but my heart says "I really love her."
Let these different voices or parts of you co-exist and speak to one another. In this way, you will find an answer that comes from your whole self.
4. Develop compassion.
Practice observing yourself and your partner without judging. Part of you might judge, but you don't have to identify with it. Judging closes a door. The opposite of judging is compassion. When you are compassionate, you are open, connected, and more available to dialoguing respectfully with your partner. As you increasingly learn to see your partner compassionately, you will have more power to choose your response rather than just reacting.
5. Create a "we" that can house two "I's."
The foundation for a thriving, growing, mutually supportive relationship is being separate, yet connected. In co-dependent relationships , each person sacrifices part of him or herself — compromising the relationship as a whole. When you are separate and connected, each individual "I" contributes to creatimg a "we" that is stronger than the sum of its parts.
6. Partner, heal thyself.
Don't expect your partner to fill your emotional holes, and don't try to fill theirs. Ultimately, each of us can only heal ourselves. Your partner, however, can support the journey as you work with yourself, and vice versa. In fact, living in a loving relationship is healing in and of itself.
7. Relish the differences between you.
The differences between you and your
partner are not negatives. You don't need a relationship with someone who shares all of your interests and views. We may sometimes fear that these differences are incompatibilities, but in fact, they're often what keeps a relationship exciting and full of good fire.
8. Ask questions.
All too often, we make up our own stories or interpretations about what our partners' behavior means. For example: "She doesn't want to cuddle; she must not really love me anymore." We can never err on the side of asking too many questions, and then listen to the answers from your whole self — heart, gut, mind and body. Equally important is to hear what's not being said — the facts and feeling that you sense might be unspoken.
9. Make time for your relationship. No matter who you are or what your work is, you need to nurture your relationship. Make sure you schedule time for the well-being of your relationship. That includes making "play dates" and also taking downtime together. Frequently create a sacred space together by shutting off all things technological and digital. Like a garden, the more you tend to your relationship, the more it will grow.
10. Say the "hard things" from love.
Become aware of the hard things that you're not talking about. How does that feel? No matter what you're feeling in a situation, channel the energy of your emotions so that you say what you need to say in a constructive manner.
There you have it. Be kind to yourselves. Remember: change takes time and every step counts.

What His Sign Says About How He 'll Ghost You

You'll have what you think is an above-average first date, full of great conversation (aka very minimal phone-checking) and a lengthy makeout session in a conveniently located park. He'll already suggest a venue for date two, leaving out the fact that he won't be free any of the five nights you are, and won't ever propose a time that works for him. Aries's adventurousness is what won you over in the first place; however that spontaneity = only responding when he feels like it. "Gotta check my sched" are the words that will haunt you for years to come.
Taurus: The Semi-Secret Admirer
Somewhere along your doomed dating timeline, he added you on various social media platforms, which are now your only forms of contact. He won't answer a text, but he's always down to fave a tweet, peppering your Newsfeed with little reminders that you're hilarious and engaging, but just not dateable for some reason. Taurus loves reliability in his life, and he will reliably make you feel like garbage by reminding you he's still around, just not interested.
Is it truly ghosting if he just slowly bores you to death with the most generic responses (after you've had some really deep talks and you know he's more interesting than this)? Because Gemini worries about coming off as a jerk, his form of ghosting is a polite slow fade, where he'll just say "yeah" a lot and cease to ask you any questions, miraculously making you the ghoster in the end as you save yourself from the monotony of endless "lol"s.
Cancer tends to fluctuate in his moods a lot and is more of a seasonal ghost, where you'll only hear from him around the holidays or when summer starts, or really anytime where he might feel a little lonelier than usual. At most, you'll hook up again and then have him disappear until next time, like a groundhog of dating. His shadow magically appears during your worst dry spells.
He'll cut communication (or so you thought) until maybe a year or two later when he realizes he can try and connect for a job or internship opportunity or other favor. If you see him at a party, the career-driven and overly bold Leo will try and network with you as if nothing ever happened. But hey, at least you can bask in that feeling of professional superiority to overcome the mind-numbing pain of all those unanswered texts! Hahahaha! Who's crying, what?
Because Virgo wants to please everyone and be reliable, he'll still respond when you ask to hang out ... two weeks later. Fine, you get it, he's not ~that~ into you — he's just trying to be nice. Except he also is insistent on hanging out this weekend, or next week. "Great, what time?" you ask, naively thinking an actual date may come to fruition. Spoiler: He won't say when, until, you guessed it, two weeks later. "I really do want to hang out though!" Who is this guy and how has he made it this far in life anyway?
You'll be in the middle of one of those text convos where each person responds with several paragraphs, diving into childhood memories and lifelong fears and everything else that makes texting briefly resemble 19th century love letters. Only thing is, there's no excuse of lost mail or dying horses to justify a complete and sudden conversational halt. And because the texts got so personal, you'll wonder what you actually said to make him unpredictably lose interest out of nowhere. So fun for you!! Really though, Libra is just kind of hot and cold about who he likes, so don't take it personally.
He'll do something like accidentally like a photo of you from two years ago or swipe right on you on Tinder, making you believe the lines of communication are about to open again. Surely, he's still thinking about you! And to a certain extent, yes, since he's doing some deep digging into your vacation photos from four years ago. But that's just who Scorpio is: a little secretive and prone to wanting to keep tabs. His calling card will always be "unintentional Instagram fave from 2014."
Sagittarius: The Friend-Approved Ghost
Sagittarius can be a bit impulsive and unaware of how his actions impact other people. He's that guy who asks your friends about you, and they will excitedly repeat his questions to you in detail, until you finally give him your number. There's just one problem: After exchanging a few nervous "hey"s over text, you won't hear from him, and the next time you see him, he'll avoid eye contact. Your less-informed friends will naturally ask for all the dirty details, further rubbing salt in the wound.
Capricorn: The One Who (Literally) Got Away (No, Really, Where Did He Go?)
This ghost knows no bounds and will actually float away in the middle of regularly dating you. Capricorns can be selfish and unexpectedly pessimistic about their dating lives, a combination with disastrous results. While there may be gray areas for Tinder conversations and second dates, there's no justifiable reason to leave a relationship (or anything where you're seeing each other multiple times a week for months on end) without an in-person chat. If Berger from Sex and the City left a Post-it, this guy just leaves a kissy face emoji and then radio silence, forever.
Aquarius: The Half-Dead Ghost
The free-floating, emotionally detached Aquarius is the equivalent of Casper the ghost: mostly harmless, but incredibly annoying, as the only texts you'll ever get from him are the ever-creative "u up?" Friday 2 a.m.-ers. If you choose to respond, you must do so within 30 minutes — any morning follow-ups will be met with zero acknowledgement, until next time. Ah, modern romance.
Pisces: The Ghoul With the Girlfriend
He'll surprise you when he ghosts after a few dates, but in a few weeks' time, you'll see his new (or reunited ex-) girlfriend in his photos, giving you far more than the thousand words you wanted when he rejected you in the first place. Pisces is a dreamer and just happens to be so romantic that he's ready to leap into a new relationship while maybe starting one with you. Oh well. At least the mystery's solved?

Make Her Jealous

Make Her Jealous with These 6 Simple Things

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Love, lust, comfort, joy and, yes, even jealousy are all part of our relationships. The last emotion has a special place in any healthy couples! It’s the reaffirmation of dedication and commitment. 
Some ladies will not realize they have an interest in someone until they feel that bite of envy when he receives attention from other girls. But how can you make her jealous and not lose her interest entirely?
Well, it isn’t as tough as it sounds thanks to this simple 6-step guide.

Step #1 – Firstly, Pay Some Attention to Her

Without establishing a first connection, trying to make her feel jealous is useless. Therefore, you have to spend a little extra time focusing just on her.
Make sure to give her compliments, smile at her and make her laugh!
Let her know how important she is to you (either as a friend or girlfriend) and how special and unique she is. However, you should not come off clingy or desperate. Keep it just sweet and sincere!
Pay attention: This alone will help your relationship. It’s important to let someone know where they stand in your heart, even if it is not the route you are shooting for!

Step #2 – Talk to Other Girls for a Few Minutes (Make Sure She Sees It)

This is a step that must be taken cautiously for 2 key reasons:

1. Insecurity – Firstly, for the girl you are trying to make jealous. If she thinks you are overly flirty with too many other ladies, she may write you off as a player that will bring more heartache than love.
2. False hopes – Secondly, for the other chicks you are talking to and spending time with. Please note that you are speaking to them not flirting with them! You could mislead them into thinking you are interested in them (this may be unfair and even hurt these girls).

Keep it simple and just showing her you have other female friends is enough here. Be friendly, tell jokes, and mention them from time to time in conversations with her. Let her know you have taken an interest in their lives!

Step #3 – Go Out with Your Pals & Tell Her How Much Fun You Had to Make Her Jealous

This shows that while she is important in your life, you still have a lot more going on. Talk about your friends by name, inform her of the great things that happened while you were hanging out and make sure she knows you can have lots of fun without her.
This by no means indicates you should dismiss her!
Pay attention: Use it as a tool to make her know you are a funny guy that others want to be around. Let her know you have a full schedule in your life! Later on it will mean much more when you make lots of room for her in it!

Step #4 – Tell Her About Other Girls You Like

Talking about various chicks with her is a sure way to make her green with envy. If done carefully and well, it can also win you big points as a decent guy.
Example #1:
If you have an upcoming project due date that is shared, mention something like this:
– “Yes, Amy said she already started working on it, and it wasn’t as bad as everyone made it out to be.”
From this simple sentence, you showed her not only you have been talking to Amy, but also you listened and remembered what she said while not being immature or obvious.
Example #2:
Or, you could be a little more direct. Something like:
– “I like Kathy’s new haircut; it’s pretty on her.”
It is a common sentence a nice guy would say and shows that you pay attention to the women in your life without objectifying them.

Step #5 – Harness The Power of Social Networks & Sites

Social media allows people to connect with others and publicly communicate. It’s a great way to create a small level of jealousy in any relationship.
Just pay your shared female friends small, but thoughtful compliments on their photos!
Tell them they did a good job in last night’s sports game or ask for aid on a project while saying how smart they are.
Pay attention: Not only will it create a friendly atmosphere with the ladies in your life, but it will make that special woman take a little extra notice of the amazing dude she already has!

Step #6 – Do Not Overdo This If You Want to Keep Her!

Women do not want guys who are insincere or seem likely to stray. If you constantly flirt with other girls, stalk them on social media and tell her how great they look compared to her; you stand no chance of winning her affection!
If anything, all this will do is make her turn away and inform her friends how disingenuous you treat other ladies. Be honest but not obvious, bear in mind how awesome she is and why you are doing this in the first place!
Keep in mind: A little jealousy is necessary – a lot ruins any happy relationship.

signs that a girl likes you!

8 Sure Signs That a Girl Likes You

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You all know the saying: “Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars.” Dudes and chicks simply communicate in different ways, and this leaves a lot of room for error in communication! How to tell? How to know if a girl likes you? You will discover the VITAL signs in the next few minutes.

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Girls have a vast array of emotional and physical tells when they are attracted to a boy! These are there to show interest without actually giving too much away.
Luckily, there are 8 most common signs you should look for to discover if she is attracted to you or not!

Sign #8 – Dilated Pupils & The Look She Gives You

While certainly the most subtle, her eyes are the gateway to her soul. Paying attention to her pupils can tell you everything you need to know about her potential romantic interest!
A girl can say a lot with her look, she can reflect sadness, excitement, fear, joy and even attraction. If the last one is the case, you will be able to notice, that:

• Her pupils may be dilated, and she will attempt to make eye contact often, even if she averts her gaze every time you return it.
• She will often smile, and this will be reflected in her eyes.

If you think (based on the signs above) she is attracted to you, try complimenting her look. Telling any chick how beautiful her eyes are is always a win! This is one of the best signs to tell if a girl likes you IMHO!
Keep in mind: A kind compliment now and then will not only make other people feel good about themselves but will make your mood better as well!

Sign #7 – She Plays with Her Hair

While it may sound strange to men, ladies use their hair to say a lot of things. Unfortunately, it’s simply not a language we speak.
A girl who is interested in you will often touch her hair (either to correct it or to play with it) while near you.
This is a subconscious thing women do when attracted to a man, wanting to be perfect by correcting a flyaway or replacing a fallen curl!
Keep in mind: If she does mess with her hair a great deal while in your company, it could certainly mean that she is attracted to you!

Sign #6 – She Touches & Bites Her Lips

To communicate with your lips, you do not need to be speaking! Keep in mind that women are well versed at sharing interest wordlessly.
It’s only natural she would use her lips during flirting as they evoke thoughts of kissing.
Keep in mind: If she touches or bites her lips, and you notice it, your mind may very often go back to those thoughts of kissing them. Provoking your mind is exactly what a chick who is flirting with you is trying to do! If you see this type of behavior, you can see that she likes you.

Sign #5 – Her Body Is Facing You

Facing someone with your body is a subconscious sign that you are listening to them and signaling that they are your current attention holder. In a general conversation, it’s just polite, but with a woman, it can indicate attraction.
Therefore, look for answers to these 3 questions:

1. Does she face you when you are talking?
2. If just standing around, is her body facing towards you?
3. Pay particular focus to her feet, are her toes pointing at you or away?

If your answers are YES, it could mean that she is trying to convey interest in you. She subconsciously wants you to know that she isn’t ignoring you or wanting to be somewhere else.
Pay attention: Her attention is just on you! These are awesome places you have to

Sign #4 – She Wants to Be in Your Presence Regularly

Every time she walks into a room full of people, her eyes seek you out first. Pay attention as this may even be a quick, simple thing such as this:
“She walks in, views you, gives you a quick smile and then turns to find her friends.”
Still, you were first, and that means a lot! Want to know why? Because it says that she was thinking of you before she even walked into that room!
Pay attention: You were on her mind, and she had to check to make sure you were already there before she moves on to enjoy the crowd!

Sign #3 – She Touches You “Accidentally”!

Physical contact is by far the most common way a woman will express her interest in you. An occasional playful punch or quick touch means a big deal when coming from a girl!
Why?
Because it means she was seeking out a reason to touch you or bump into you. Touching is girl-flirting 101. Pay close attention to her.
Does she lay her hand on your shoulder in greeting? Does she stand close to you? Does she squeeze your arm gently when you make her laugh or when telling a story?
Pay attention: If your answers to all of these three questions are YES, then she is definitely into you as all of these are standard flirting techniques!

Sign #2 – She Laughs Even at Your Poor Jokes

This is one of those times where everyone is trying to say the same thing, just using a different language. Boys who are interested will often want to make their “target” girl smile while chicks who are attracted to a guy will want to do so.
A lady who laughs at all of your jokes, even those that you should probably retire from your comedy act, may be trying to show her interest in you!
Keep in mind: A person telling a joke, even a bad one, often just wants to make their audience smile! Smiling at someone’s jokes affirms their self-esteem. It lets them know that their goal to amuse you has succeeded.
If you want to know if a girl likes you, try saying a stupid joke and watch her reaction. How does she react?

Sign #1 – She Discusses You with Her Friends

A girl who feels attraction to a boy will want to talk about him to all of her friends. What do they think? Do they think he is interested in her? Wouldn’t they make such a cute couple? What do you think his favorite color is? If you want to know how to tell if a girl likes you, this is one of those VITAL signs you should look for.
While this may sound like strange jabber-jabber to men, it’s a huge compliment. Every girl wants affirmation on her attraction (especially if you haven’t made any romantic moves yet) from the people who are closest to her!

Why is politics getting more tribal?

Imagine you’re in a bar, discussing the upcoming election with your friends. You admit you’re undecided. In fact, you can see both sides of the argument. They stare back at you as though you’ve just said you’d like to murder baby pandas.
Politics has never seemed more tribal. In America, it’s Donald Trump vs Hillary Clinton. In Europe, it’s the Europhiles vs the Eurosceptics. In Turkey, it’s the Islamists vs the secularists.
In the US , Australia and Europe , the gap between liberals and conservatives, the left and the right is widening. Look at social media, and it can feel like antipathy towards the other side is becoming increasingly intense.
In the US, for example, “very unfavourable” views of the other party more than doubled between 1992 and 2014, according to polls by the Pew Research Center. Fast-forward to 2016 and most – as opposed to just many – Republicans and Democrats view the opposition in deeply negative terms. Of nearly 5,000 people surveyed, over half
believe the opposition is “closed-minded”, while around four in 10 are convinced supporters of the rival party are more “lazy”, “immoral” and “dishonest” than other Americans.
Antipathy towards the other side is becoming increasingly intense
So, what might be driving this tribalism? Psychological research reveals subconscious forces, which – in the face of facts, experience or better judgement – prevent people seeing alternative points of view and push them into ever-more-partisan camps. And some scientists believe that many aspects of 21st Century living could be creating the perfect conditions for falling victim. In fact, from where people live to what they read, modern life has an alarming power to entrench people’s political affiliations and views – without them even realising it.
One potential explanation is the so-called group polarisation effect. Discussing views with friends might seem like the perfect way to expose the flaws in thinking and hear similar but alternative points of view. It’s not. “If you put a group of like-minded people in a room, their attitudes generally become even more extreme,” says Jessica Keating, a psychologist from the University of Colorado, Boulder.
To test the idea, Keating and colleagues brought some undergraduate students into the lab to talk politics. In the first experiment, groups of like-minded individuals debated whether Barack Obama or George W Bush was the better president. In the second, whether they supported Barack Obama or Mitt Romney in the 2012 presidential election.
After the discussion, they were asked how they felt about that candidate now and what their original attitude had been before the experiment. As Keating expected, their attitudes were universally more extreme. Alarmingly, the shift happened in the space of just 15 minutes. And they had no idea it was happening.
Spending time with like-minded people is likely to expose you to new arguments which further convince you of your own views
"In the first study they had no idea their attitudes had polarised at all – in the second they vastly underestimated how extreme their views had become,” says Keating.
No one knows for sure what causes the effect, but it may simply be down to new information: spending time with like-minded people is likely to expose us to new arguments which further convinces us of our own views. Or perhaps it’s the result of trying to gain acceptance by the group.
The trouble is, it’s easier than ever for a person to cruise through life without meeting anyone who disagrees with them. It’s this intellectual vacuum which piqued the interest of Matt Motyl, a psychologist from Illinois University, Chicago. A few years ago, he began attending political events and religious services to strike up conversation with people he wouldn’t usually meet.
“I’d come back to my predominantly liberal social circle and try to explain that the other side isn’t ignorant or malevolent,” he says. He faced harsh rebukes for his open-mindedness, including accusations of treachery. Motyl decided to find out what was going on.
It’s well known that political allegiances can often be visualised by simply drawing a line between the north and south on a map. “Even today, if you can only know one thing about a voter to predict their vote, zip code is among the best predictors,” says Jonathan Haidt, a psychologist from New York University. So Motyl wondered if it might have something to do with geography.
It’s a chicken and egg scenario – do people end up agreeing with their neighbours because they move, or because they’re influenced by where they’re living in the first place?
Ideological misfits are significantly more likely to move
To find out, Motyl sifted through data from over a million US residents who had taken the implicit association test, an online survey which attempts to uncover those thoughts which are outside your conscious awareness, such as racial prejudice.
He was only interested in three things: where respondents currently lived, where they had lived the longest and their political ideology. Next he compared how the latter differed from the dominant views in these areas.
As it turns out, ideological misfits are significantly more likely to move – roughly eight out of 10, compared to five out of 10 conformists. Further, among those who leave, their new postcode is much more likely to be a stronghold for their own views.
With so many people moving to be around their ideological compatriots, today the group polarisation effect is being played out on a massive scale. Even if someone has never moved house, one universal aspect of modern life is making it easier than ever to fall victim: the internet.
Online searches are increasingly personalised, meaning people are less likely to be exposed to new information which challenges their worldview. If two people type “Donald Trump” into the same search engine on the same day, they may well return two entirely different sets of results. On social media, this “filter bubble” plays out via the personalised news feed. “It's increasingly difficult for people to interact with politically dissimilar others. The other side may think you are immoral and downright weird,” says Motyl.
Even when we’re thinking consciously, many people choose media which reflects their views. With better access to these sources than ever before, on phones, laptops, televisions, there’s an endless stream of compelling partisan soundbites, facts and headlines competing for attention.
People who are better educated tend to hold more extreme views
In fact whether it supports a political view or not, the more information you’re exposed to – the more likely you’ll emerge feeling assured you’re right.
“What we all ought to agree on is that people looking at the same objective evidence – their views should come together. What shouldn’t happen is for people to become more confident in opposing views in the face of the same evidence – but that’s what happens,” says Ross. This may also explain why people who are better educated tend to hold more extreme views .
But it gets worse. When an alternative perspective does slip through, it must run the gauntlet of numerous other in-built biases. “Many people suffer from what we call the objectivity delusion. They think any reasonable person ought to see things as they do and anyone who doesn’t is unreasonable – biased by their emotions or information they’ve been exposed to,” says Ross.
We’re seeing things the way they really are, of course, while other people – well, they’re seeing things through the prism of their ideology, ethnicity or social class.
Perhaps the most dangerous of all is known as the illusion of asymmetric insight. First discovered in 2001, this is the belief that you understand the views of others better than they understand yours. Not only will members of a group usually think they understand other groups (such as those with alternative political ideology) better than the other way around, but that their knowledge of their own views is superior. There’s no need to listen to what others have to say – you probably understand their reasoning already.
These in-built errors may be leading to a dangerously fact-resistant public, prone to political distrust and enmity
Finally, there’s false consensus, which leads people to think that – knowing what they know – any reasonable person would agree with them. “That’s why we often see people really shocked after, let’s say, the Democratic Convention,” says Ross. Hillary supporters will have heard what she has to say and decided it was obviously true and any reasonable person will also agree with her – though this would also be true for Republicans.
These mental blind spots are not without risk. In elections, with little overlap between the views of one tribe and another, the losing side may feel angry and ignored. This is even more likely since polarisation is also known to reduce voter turnout in the first place.
When combined with modern life, these in-built errors may be leading to a dangerously tribal public, prone to political distrust and enmity.
The intriguing caveat to all this is that, when surveyed, people often agree on more issues and policies than all the political mudslinging between groups might suggest. “Sure there’s polarisation in terms of how harsh the rhetoric is, but in terms of their views on specific issues, Trump supporters and Clinton supporters agree on lots of things,” says Lee Ross, a social psychologist at Stanford University.
However, whatever you do – don’t use this article to try to change someone’s mind. Given evidence against our beliefs, the “ backfire effect ” tends to make us believe our original views even more strongly. It looks like you’re unlikely to win that debate with your friends any time soon

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